Question:
I'm the Maid of Honor planning the bridal shower with the bridesmaids, one of which is a minor (age 17) and the daughter of a very good friend of mine. My friend (the minor's mom) has volunteered to have the shower at her house (where her daughter lives too). This is great since I don't think the minor bridesmaid could contribute any money to the event. I feel this is the minor bridesmaid's contribution, but on the other hand, I want to recognize my friend as well. I feel like this is a rare circumstance and don't know if the friend should be recognized or the minor bridesmaid.
Answer:
Dear Melanie,
Not to worry. This one's easier than you think.
If the bridesmaid's mom is offering her home for the shower, then she should be invited and treated as an honored guest -- even if this is her only link to the Bride-to-Be. However, since the bridesmaid in question is a minor, it's highly likely that her mother knows the Bride-to-Be and approves of her daughter's friendship with her. That's all the more reason to be mindful of her generosity.
In this case, both the bridesmaid and her mother deserve recognition. As Maid of Honor, be sure to advise the Bride-to-Be that she needs to send the mom a thank-you card and give her a gift in show of her gratitude. It goes without saying that she should do the same for all her bridesmaids.
Gracious is as gracious does. You have a refined sensitivity to others. The fact that you even thought to ask this question proves it. You are, indeed, a Diva Darling!
Happy Showering,
Susan "The Shower Diva"
Where Fun Reigns!™
