Question:
What is the etiquette for a same-sex couple baby shower? my sister is the one having the baby, is the shower for her or both her and her partner?
Answer:
Dear Kaci,
Congratulations to Mom-to-Be and her loving partner!
Planning for a couples baby shower is about the same, whether the parents are straight or gay. Before you take another step, have a pow wow with your sister and her mate so they can tell you what kind of shower they want. Will they be going traditional with their decor, menu, games and favors? Will they want a holiday theme such as a Valentine's Day or a Spring celebration? Shower themes play a central role and dictate everything from style of invitation right down to the centerpiece on the dining room table.
Once your sister and her partner choose a theme, get your hands on that all important guest list. You need to know how many people you're entertaining so that you can create everything from your shopping list to seating arrangements for the big day.
There are creative variations and a few "good manners" cues you'll need to be sensitive to when it comes to same sex couples showers. These aren't generally spelled out in most how-to baby shower guides. For an inside scoop on lesbian baby showers, check out this blog: Evolved Moms, Lesbian Baby Shower Advice for starters. You might want to direct your sister and her partner to this spirited and informative blog, too.
That being said, you're still going to want access to the basics of good baby shower planning. Be sure to check out our overview at The Shower Diva's Baby Shower Basics.
Finally, you're going to want fun games and shower favors. No shower is complete without these crowd pleasing touches. Our sponsor's site, BadaBadaBINGO.com, has tons of fun, upscale games and party favors -- just about everything you'd need to throw the best baby shower ever!
Happy Showering,
Susan "The Shower Diva"
Where Fun Reigns!™
